Should You Know The Baby’s Gender?

Posted on: November 13, 2018

“Are you going to find out your baby’s gender before the big day?”

Other than the classic “When are you due?” question, getting asked if you plan to learn your baby’s gender beforehand can get annoying. Particularly if you’re still trying to decide when, or if, you want to discover the answer.

This is a dilemma facing parents across the world: should they find out whether they’re having a boy or a girl, or save the surprise until delivery day? Clearly, there are pros and cons to both sides of the issue. And, like many issues that parents face during pregnancy, there are no universal right or wrong answers.

IMPORTANT – try to make your decision BEFORE the 20-week scan. There have been times when couples have not had this discussion beforehand, and end up going five rounds in front of their sonographer. Having the talk before visiting the doctor’s office will help to protect your privacy, and allow you to fully explore all of your options without unnecessary stress.

Some parents want to preserve this wonderful surprise until the baby is born. Many parents find that discovering what they are having in advance helps them to bond with the baby (before the due date) for the first time.

Familiarity typically builds stronger connections – not knowing whether you’re having a ‘he’ or a ‘she’ relegates your child to an ‘it.’ In this scenario, parents sometimes struggle to form a strong connection with the baby-to-be – especially fathers.

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Dr. Stillson now offers first-trimester genetic testing that allows you to discover the sex of your baby. Visit to make your ob appointment.